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ShotokanKid
Black Belt
Joined: 14 Nov 2004
Posts: 1818
Location: Southern California
Styles: Shotokan Karate, Inosanto Kali
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 Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 7:33 pm Post subject: Changing behavior/personality |
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It's been a long time since I've been on KF.
Anyways, I had a question for you all... I wanted to ask how one would go about changing their behavior/personality. I am interested specifically in becoming quieter. I consider myself a bit too talkative and borderline hyper... my goal is to become quieter and calmer. What can I do to achieve this?
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bushido_man96
KF Sensei
Joined: 31 Mar 2006
Posts: 12059
Location: Hays, KS
Styles: Taekwondo,Hapkido, SCA Combat, and I research Medieval Combat
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Well, you know what you want to change, so now just work on changing it. There isn't a lot of magic to it. Just try to talk less, listen more, etc.
Why do you want to change? Personally, I like who I am, and don't want to change much of anything (except for maybe lose a few pounds...).
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Throwdown0850
Blue Belt
Joined: 16 Feb 2008
Posts: 340
Styles: Kodokan Judo, AikiJuJutsu, Kenpo Karate, just started Kyusho-Jitsu
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| Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 11:07 pm Post subject: Re: Changing behavior/personality |
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| ShotokanKid wrote: |
It's been a long time since I've been on KF.
Anyways, I had a question for you all... I wanted to ask how one would go about changing their behavior/personality. I am interested specifically in becoming quieter. I consider myself a bit too talkative and borderline hyper... my goal is to become quieter and calmer. What can I do to achieve this? |
I dont know much about this but, I don't think you can change your personality at will can you? I think maybe it happens naturally. |
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ShotokanKid
Black Belt
Joined: 14 Nov 2004
Posts: 1818
Location: Southern California
Styles: Shotokan Karate, Inosanto Kali
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| Posted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 12:20 am Post subject: |
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Why do you want to change? Personally, I like who I am, and don't want to change much of anything (except for maybe lose a few pounds...). |
Well, I occasionally think I'm annoying... and I can just imagine what other people are thinking if I think that I'm annoying. I'm sometimes make jokes and say things that are met with the chirping of crickets (aka awkward silence). I find I'm a lot more satisfied with my day when I'm quiet. I also tend to laugh at a lot of things, even if they're not that funny, and I'm sure this gets annoying.
So what do you think?
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ShotokanKid
Black Belt
Joined: 14 Nov 2004
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Location: Southern California
Styles: Shotokan Karate, Inosanto Kali
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| Posted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 12:25 am Post subject: Re: Changing behavior/personality |
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| Throwdown0850 wrote: |
I dont know much about this but, I don't think you can change your personality at will can you? I think maybe it happens naturally. |
I don't think it's so much personality as it is behavior. I'm not sure whether or not it can be done but if I can, I would like to try.
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bushido_man96
KF Sensei
Joined: 31 Mar 2006
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Location: Hays, KS
Styles: Taekwondo,Hapkido, SCA Combat, and I research Medieval Combat
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| bushido_man96 wrote: |
Why do you want to change? Personally, I like who I am, and don't want to change much of anything (except for maybe lose a few pounds...). |
Well, I occasionally think I'm annoying... and I can just imagine what other people are thinking if I think that I'm annoying. I'm sometimes make jokes and say things that are met with the chirping of crickets (aka awkward silence). I find I'm a lot more satisfied with my day when I'm quiet. I also tend to laugh at a lot of things, even if they're not that funny, and I'm sure this gets annoying.
So what do you think? |
Well, I think we all have times like that. If you want to be more quiet and listen to more things, then that is fine. I don't think it will change you much, just that your personality will show up less, because you express yourself less.
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A. Orstrom
Orange Belt
Joined: 22 Jan 2005
Posts: 140
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
Styles: Kyokushinkai Karate, Nishio-ryu Aikido
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Perhaps, at the beginning of a day, you should find one thing you would like to do differently. Focus on that one thing, and see how it works. It will probably start to come naturally and then you can go on to the next thing. I have used this method when I wanted to avoid using certain expressions.
Hope this helps! 
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ShotokanKid
Black Belt
Joined: 14 Nov 2004
Posts: 1818
Location: Southern California
Styles: Shotokan Karate, Inosanto Kali
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That's funny that you would mention a method like that... I just recently started keeping a goal notebook--goals that I achieved are highlighted, ones that I failed are marked over in red. Some of them are things like get an A on my math test, others are behavior specific things. It's been working out pretty well. It is a great idea, thanks A.Orstrom.
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ying&yang
Purple Belt
Joined: 29 Jan 2008
Posts: 513
Location: melbourne
Styles: JKD , and 15 others
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Well you have to listen more to your environment , and the people around you. And think about everything you say before you say it. Medation will help with this.
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vashogun
White Belt
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Location: Chesterfield VA
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I'm a psychology student, and a firm believer that you certain can change your behavior. However, it will require disciplined operant conditioning, and will probably be easier if someone else is keeping you in check. You have to replace your impulses with a more acceptable behavior, if you really think its something worth changing.
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