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Atalanta071
Yellow Belt
Joined: 12 Jun 2005
Posts: 51
Location: Ohio
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 Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 12:17 pm Post subject: Going out with someone in your school |
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I am slightly confused on the whole "Is it allowed to go out with someone in the MA school" thing. Well, what I meant to say is, I am unsure if it is allowed. I have resigned to the fact my green-belt friend is my boyfriend, but we met in school, not in Karate classes. We do partner with each other as much as possible, sometimes he's the one to get a bit "frisky", but we control ourselves for the most part. About the worst thing that happens is that we lose our concentration occasionally. We mainly flirt with each other during non-karate time. So I was basically wondering if it would be okay to go out with him, even though we are in the same school. I would ask my own Sensei, but I don't want to be kicked out of the school. Comments please?
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Yamamatsu
White Belt
Joined: 08 Jun 2005
Posts: 10
Location: Japan/New York
Styles: Goshindou-karate, Jujitsu, Kendo, Judou
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Well, the same situation is observed when dating in the workplace, but I don't see a problem with it. But I would attempt to pretend while at the MA school to imagine he isn't there, and keep concentration. Other than that, I don't see anything wrong.
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Atalanta071
Yellow Belt
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Posts: 51
Location: Ohio
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The difficult part would be to pretend he does not exist. I do not see him often during summer vacation and I really do enjoy being around him. I shall work on it, though...
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Sam
Black Belt
Joined: 16 Dec 2004
Posts: 1746
Styles: ITF TKD, Wu Shu, Muay Thai
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innocui
Yellow Belt
Joined: 23 Feb 2006
Posts: 28
Location: Newcastle, England (TOOM ARMY, TOON ARMY)
Styles: Go-Kan Ryu Karate
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| As long as you don't get down and dirty in the middle of the class, there shouldn't be a problem...One of my instructors is married to a black belt he met in class. He treats her like the rest of us |
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Holland
Blue Belt
Joined: 15 Apr 2006
Posts: 287
Location: wilmington, nc
Styles: Isshinryu, Okinawan Kobudo
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Alas, I am not allowed to date anyone at my school...
Of course, my wife is a black belt at my school, so you can imagine that she would not take too kindly to me going out with one of the other students.
As for everyone else, its all good at my school. |
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lordtariel
Black Belt
Joined: 19 Jan 2006
Posts: 1709
Location: Oregon
Styles: (Past)Judo, Yang Family Tai Chi, (Current)Shito-Ryu Karate, Kobudo(Tonfajitsu)
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Does your instructor come across as someone who would kick you out over something like that? Odds are he probably won't. You could ask him if he dissaproves of dating in the school. You don't have to tell him you are. To me, it's fine as long as you keep class as training time and not flirty time. But, if you're going to class just to play around, why go at all? I also recommend partnering with other people during practice, otherwise you'll not get as rounded of an experience with your techniques.
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Sohan
Black Belt
Joined: 08 Apr 2006
Posts: 1986
Location: Atlanta
Styles: Shorin Ryu Karate-Do, Muay Thai, Shudokan Karate-Do, Boxing, BJJ, Hung Gar Gung Fu
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Never date someone who can kick your butt. :)Other than that, go ahead.
Respectfully,
Sohan
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Whitefeather
Blue Belt
Joined: 11 Oct 2005
Posts: 289
Location: Pacific Northwest
Styles: Shudokan Karatedo
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Never date someone who can kick your butt. :)Other than that, go ahead.
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jaymac
Black Belt
Joined: 14 Dec 2005
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Styles: shotokan (nidan)
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There shouldn't be a problem with the fact that you two are dating, but I am concerned that you are flirting and losing concentration during classes. This would be looked upon in our dojo as being very disrespectful to the person teaching and to the others who are witness to it. Be mature in class and take your classes responsibly. You are setting the example of students lower ranked than you. Have your flirting and fun time outside of the dojo.
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