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Soo Min
Yellow Belt
Joined: 26 Sep 2005
Posts: 25
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 Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2007 8:50 pm Post subject: Residual from Leaving |
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About two months ago I mysteriously left a school I had trained at for about nine years...My instructors didn't even really know I was "leaving," they thought I was merely taking a break. I left for many, many reasons including but not limited to: being called swearwords by a teacher, having sexist remarks made to me by said teacher and other students, bullying from multiple people, inappropriate comments about having an affair with another student (I was thirteen at the time  ), being yelled at for hours at a time, physical abuse (Putting students in headlocks when their back is turned off class times and forcing confessions out of them?!), and other mildly cult-y things.
Yeah so you get the point about the severity of the situation. Anyway, I left and am at another school and am loving it but I am very frightened that I will run into these people again. I won't tell old friends from my school where I've gone, and I'm even a little bit scared to be posting this right now. I am frightened to talk about my school, and I try desparately to avoid the sections of town it's located in. I have nightmares about this place!
Anyway, a couple people are encouraging me to create a self-defense program for younger children that I can take to camps and schools as a community service project (I am also good at writing and performing). But I am very scared to advertise in case these people call my house in reponse to it or something.
(They have this weird thing about demostrations and stuff without permission, and even though I don't go there, I still feel...Frightened to do it.)
Yeah, I don't really know what my point is, but does anyone have an advice on how I can relax? |
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TigerDude
Green Belt
Joined: 10 Apr 2006
Posts: 370
Styles: Goju Ryu
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Well, I don't see where you are located, but possibly you are in a country where you are not protected by the law?
I think you should have the right to do as you wish, but without knowing your local istuation, it's hard to tell.
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bushido_man96
KF Sensei
Joined: 31 Mar 2006
Posts: 11994
Location: Hays, KS
Styles: Taekwondo,Hapkido, SCA Combat, and I research Medieval Combat
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| Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2007 11:09 am Post subject: |
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| TigerDude wrote: |
Well, I don't see where you are located, but possibly you are in a country where you are not protected by the law?
I think you should have the right to do as you wish, but without knowing your local istuation, it's hard to tell. |
I agree. Do what you want to do. If these people become a problem, then report them to the authorities. Keep friends around you, and continue to avoid them, as you have been.
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learning kempo-karate
Orange Belt
Joined: 18 Feb 2007
Posts: 158
Location: Big Island of Hawaii
Styles: Universal Kempo-Karate, Shotokan Karate, Judo
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Hello, Just a thought on this one? You may want to write a letter explaining why you left(your teacher may not be mature enought to understand,..but that is OK).
You have the right to quit anytime. It takes courage to leave, and start up somewhere else.
Just be polite to your former classmates. You do not need to explain anything and SHOULD NOT!
Our Professor quit his Professor, because of some things his Professor was doing was wrong ,among other thing that was not right.
Always follow you INSTINCTS'S. Your beliefs are differ from theirs.
(seems like your old school does not teach respect to others)
You did the right thing by quiting...YOU are no longer a part of there organization. Therefore you have the right to do what you want to do!
GO for it! .........Aloha
PS: The use of any foul words or any disrepect is unacceptable at all our classes. |
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username8517
Green Belt
Joined: 25 Oct 2006
Posts: 459
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| learning kempo-karate wrote: |
Hello, Just a thought on this one? You may want to write a letter explaining why you left(your teacher may not be mature enought to understand,..but that is OK).
You have the right to quit anytime. It takes courage to leave, and start up somewhere else.
Just be polite to your former classmates. You do not need to explain anything and SHOULD NOT!
Our Professor quit his Professor, because of some things his Professor was doing was wrong ,among other thing that was not right.
Always follow you INSTINCTS'S. Your beliefs are differ from theirs.
(seems like your old school does not teach respect to others)
You did the right thing by quiting...YOU are no longer a part of there organization. Therefore you have the right to do what you want to do!
GO for it! .........Aloha
PS: The use of any foul words or any disrepect is unacceptable at all our classes. |
This is very good advice. |
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lordtariel
Black Belt
Joined: 19 Jan 2006
Posts: 1709
Location: Oregon
Styles: (Past)Judo, Yang Family Tai Chi, (Current)Shito-Ryu Karate, Kobudo(Tonfajitsu)
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I'd say go for it. You might catch some political fallout(banning you from your org, stripping rank, ect) but paper really means nothing. He can't suck the knowledge out of your brain or anything, nor can he ban you from using that knowledge. That would be like going to a university, getting your degree, then having the school tell you you can't take a job in your field.
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on the post.
